An important part of parenting is being a good role model to our kids in how we handle our relationships. Sometimes the most important relationship to pay attention to is the hardest to find time for ... the one with the other parent!
I never realized how hard this would be when you have young kids. I remember my mom saying, "We work at our marriage now so that we still have something to work at when you are all out of the house and it's just us again." But how do you find time with all of the sports, homework, business travel, work meetings, etc?
When I was young, school-age, we had family dinner every night at 6. Then, after dinner the kids had to leave the table but my parents stayed for at least half-an-hour. We were not allowed to disturb my parents for this time. When we got older, they went for walks after dinner.
We used to have neighbors who hired a babysitter every Tuesday night so they could have a weekly date night. We are too cheap for that! Our solution is to spend about half-an-hour talking after the kids go to bed, but there are of course other options.
How do you carve out "no kids allowed" time for you and your spouse/partner to connect? How important is that time? How adament are you that it happens? How often does it happen?